The Dangerous Sexy Option 🦁

🎨 by Penny Slinger, 62 Dangerous Pussy/The Past, The Tantric Dakini Oracle.

Earlier this year, someone arrived in my inbox offering me an opportunity I had long dreamt of.

It had promise, it had meaning, and it was set up in such a way that I would have complete freedom to curate how we would work together.

What was weird about it was the vibe, and I detect vibes easily but I don’t always do too much with them (consciously).

So when I sat with the opportunity, I felt this tension in my being:

🫲🏼 On the one hand, this was what I had been hoping someone would choose me for and I needed the money.
🫱🏼 On the other hand, it felt all kinds of wrong.

In holding the tension, I looked at the should/default/rational choice “you’d-be-crazy-to-not-take this” and the dangerous/sexy/alluring choice “what would happen if I didn’t take this?”

I really don’t know if I was sabotaging myself, but one thing I do know is I wanted to live in the space I had never been before . . . that was the other side of me, not choosing the thing that chose me.

I call this to the dangerous sexy option because that’s how it feels, and it links to our intuition. For many of us, our conditioning has prioritized us to do what we “should do” especially when it’s at odds with what we know it isn’t right for us.

I don’t have some profound takeaway, but I’m really grateful I chose the dangerous sexy option because I didn’t die, I didn’t end up broke, I didn’t stop getting opportunities. Instead, the waters were calm, and it allowed me to feel more confident in choosing me, going forward.

Article FAQs generated by ChatGPT:
1. How does choosing the “dangerous sexy option” challenge traditional definitions of success and security?
Conventional success is often tied to financial stability, recognition, or external validation, which makes the “rational” choice feel safer. Choosing the dangerous sexy option resists these metrics by valuing alignment, intuition, and self-trust over certainty. This reframes success as the ability to choose oneself—even at the risk of discomfort—rather than simply achieving externally measurable outcomes.

2. What role does intuition play in decision-making when it conflicts with rational or socially conditioned choices?
Intuition often surfaces as subtle tension, resistance, or an unexplainable sense of “off-ness.” When it conflicts with rational thought, it exposes the limits of logic in navigating complex, personal decisions. Leaning into intuition strengthens one’s trust in internal wisdom and reveals that “what makes sense on paper” may not always make sense for the soul.

3. In what ways can saying “no” to an opportunity actually create space for greater alignment and abundance?
Declining an opportunity can act as a boundary-setting ritual that communicates to oneself (and others) what is truly acceptable. It prevents energy leaks and frees up time, creativity, and emotional capacity for experiences that are more attuned. Paradoxically, saying no can attract more opportunities that fit one’s authentic path, proving that scarcity is often an illusion created by fear.

4. Why was the image of Dangerous pussy from the Dakini Oracle chosen for this post?The image of Dangerous Pussy from Penny Slinger’s Tantric Dakini Oracle was chosen because it mirrors the exact energy you’re writing about—the wild, disruptive, sensual, and unapologetic force of choosing intuition over conditioning. That card embodies:

• Power in risk → The willingness to step outside “shoulds” and trust the unknown.

• Feminine agency → The reclamation of choice from a place of embodied intuition rather than external approval.

• Creative danger → Pussy here is not only sexual but also symbolic of creation, possibility, and the tension of birthing something new.

By pairing the post with this image, you are visually anchored into the archetype of the “dangerous sexy option”: an energy that is alluring, risky, and ultimately regenerative. It signals that the choice is not just about turning something down . . . it’s about stepping into raw, embodied sovereignty.